Codependency Explained: Part 2

Codependency can destroy relationships

Types of Codependent Communication Styles Review of Codependency Defined. Codependency is a set of protective behaviors that shield you from being more authentic and true to yourself. Childhood trauma probably prevented you from knowing what healthy authenticity looks like. People – likely our caregivers – did not create a safe space where our authentic self […]

Codependency Explained: Part 1

Traits of codependent behavior

Codependency Defined Codependency is a catch-all word that is misused and has worked its way into our everyday language. Its true definition can be fluid and confusing. I like to describe it as an undercurrent that guides how someone interacts with the world. It is more of a way of being than a diagnosis. You […]

Who Leaves Who In A Relationship?

Relationship counseling at Apricity Expat Therapy

Men Leave Relationships in Many Ways In my clinical and personal experience, I rarely see men doing the leaving. They do lots of other things, but rarely are they the ones to completely end a relationship. They compartmentalize and disappear into work, hobbies, fantasy, or addiction. They carry on secret lives and secret affairs. They’ll […]

Meet Me In The Quiet Space

You can see others' emotional pain

Emotional Pain Is All Around Us I spend a good portion of every day trying to solve the problem of suffering, both in my personal and professional lives. I’m not sure I know what I am doing. But I am sure of one thing: dealing with our pain can only happen if there is a […]

Get Your Outsides To Match Your Insides

Online therapy can help you embrace your authentic self.

“I’m supposed to allow myself to feel crappy??  What does that even mean?”

It means that you have a full spectrum of emotions that encompasses both happiness and sadness, joy and grief, peace and anger.  You cannot deny half of the spectrum.

Inner Healing Intelligence

Psychedelic Assisted Therapy

A seed knows how to become a tree. A tree knows to grow towards the sun.  There is no instruction necessary. The skin knows how to close itself after a cut or scrape and a broken bone knows how to knit itself back together. There is an ever present natural instinct to regain homeostasis. The […]

Good Vibes Only is Tacky and Useless

Life is Messy

I’m just going to say it. Positive thinking, manifesting and visualizing yourself accomplishing something amazing doesn’t work. “WHAT??!” you say. It gets worse. The more you dream about or focus on that positive thing you want to happen, the less likely it will actually take place. Don’t believe me? I don’t blame you. I’m going […]

How Well Do You Follow Your Internal GPS?

Your values are guideposts to decision making.

Recently, I’ve been spending a lot of time researching and deepening my understanding of values and their relationship to goals. As part of a yet-to-be-announced project that I’m working on, my colleagues and I are reflecting on why we sometimes do things that align with our values and why we sometimes don’t. The mystery is […]